The cost of avoiding conflict

Avoiding conflict does not equate to peace (in relationships). Peace requires difficult and open conversations that have accountability and a goal to resolve issues together.

This is why relationships with narcissists do not work. No accountability, just:

Denial - refusing to acknowledge the issue / responsibility

Attack - they will flip the script and point out some thing about you or pretend you are toxic, controlling, insecure, manipulative, mean…

Reverse Victim - they play wounded and broken as if their character is being criticized.

Offender - you’re the one who started this and made me have to protect myself. I’m sorry I’m not perfect like you.

The acronym is: DARVO

If you need help escaping or recovering from narcissist abuse, please reach out (DM).